Someday . . . your child will sleep!
The primary feeling of a Big Kid waking you up is “Whaattt????” But, yes, they still need you sometimes! They wake up with nightmares or they’re sick, or they just get scared sometimes. First strategy is make unintelligible noises and wave them back to their room, grunting out a “Go back to bed!”
If that doesn’t work, then tell them to grab a blanket and lie down beside your bed or let them jump in with you. Personally, I prefer just letting them jump in with me as I’m about the laziest mom ever in the middle of the night.
Another idea is when you transition from the toddler bed to a Big Kid bed go to a Full size bed. That way you can lie down with them comfortably while they go to sleep and in the middle of the night if needed. It’s also handy for years and years to come for sleepovers.
Some moms skip the toddler bed altogether and go straight to a Full Size bed. If you’re worried about rolling off, you can start with the mattress on the floor or install safety rails for the sides of the bed.
What about Insomnia?
Insomnia is just . . . the worst!!! You’re exhausted. You’ve been up the night before and chased the kids all day. You lie down to go to sleep and suddenly you can’t. The whole day plays through your head.
If every mistake you made or every time you lost your patience or yelled at the kids is the filmstrip playing in your head, try changing the channel. We all make mistakes as a mom.
One of my friends told me once that these aren’t always mistakes. Sometimes a kid needs a little yelling to know you’re serious or to get in gear to Get their Shoes On. Laugh at yourself from time to time and eventually everyone will be laughing together.
Try the following Five Tips for Insomnia for Moms:
- Speak kindly to yourself in that moment and know that you can always start again the next day, after a full night of sleep (hopefully!).
- Visualize being the best mom you can be the next day. Walk through your day imagining responding how you would like to respond when the inevitable toddler crisis arises. Breath deeply as you do this.
- Use soft belly breathing or the 4-8 breath to slow your heart rate down.
- Use a YouTube video with meditative music. You may just drift off into sleep.
- Try a hypnosis for Insomnia. You can purchase these online. The only caution I have around these is that usually the suggestion is that you stay asleep throughout the night. Moms always worry, “What if I need to wake up? Will I hear the baby?” The hypnosis for insomnia that I do in my practice custom to moms have in them that you’ll wake up any time that it’s truly necessary, if your child needs you, etc.
Finally, remember that this is a journey and eventually the kids will sleep all the way through the night. I promise!
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Yours in health,