Couples Counseling – Be Friends again
Although I am a Hypnosis specialist, I do couples counseling due to having extensive training and background in couples therapy. Only 12% of therapists have specific training in Marriage & Family Therapy.
Unfortunately, I can’t hypnotize your partner to pick up their socks! If I could, I would have a mile long waiting list! It does mean that I can work with both people at one time, all of whom have different points of view.
My training is in Gottman Couples Therapy (Level 1) and the Couples Institute (Full Year Specialization).
This is such important work for everyone in the room. Other than our parents, our partners in life are one of the biggest influences on our growth, development as a person, and happiness.
I take a limited number of couples for couples counseling. A phone call is required before scheduling to make sure I’m a good fit for you and that our schedules work well together. Schedule a free consultation to discuss this.
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An acquaintance once asked me if I thought that Couples therapy can hurt rather than help. She was concerned about going in and “just fighting the whole time.” I told her, “Yes, I did think it could hurt.” If the therapy is not structured for change, if it does not require that the couple begin to relate differently in session, then they can walk out feeling like they could have had that fight at home . . . why pay someone to be there with them?
I use a therapy centered around the methods of Julie and John Gottman who have been leading researchers in this field for over 30 years. Couples learn not just how to stay together, but stay together happily. Who wants to stay together miserably for the next 20 years? It helps the couple learn new ways to relate so that they both feel better in the relationship.
Warning Signs of a Marriage in Trouble
- Eye Rolling
- Name calling
- Hurtful comments
- Sarcasm that is hurtful.
- No sex or happens infrequently.
- No or very little attraction.
- None or very little affection.
- Either partner avoiding phone calls or emails.
- Refusing to discuss things in the relationship.
- Not wanting to talk to you, cutting conversations off.
- Defensiveness – not being able to talk about most things without one or both of you becoming defensive about it.
- Constantly working, to the point where you never talk or spend time together.
- Criticism – being truly critical of your partner. Criticism is sometimes disguised as helpfulness or “honesty.” It feels good when your partner is truly trying to help you. Criticism makes you feel defeated, like something is wrong with you.
If you have a couple of the these warning signs or read one of them and get that sinking feeling in your stomach, then schedule a free consultation to see if we’re a good fit to work together. If we are, I’ll work to get your marriage back on the right track.
If you’re having trouble, you and your relationship are worth improving.