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Dr. Liz reviews some big changes that have happened in her life during the 9 years of running the podcast as well as what’s coming up in year 10.

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About Dr. Liz

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Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and hypnosis to people wanting a fast, easy way to transform all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing.

A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation.

Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work.

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Transcript

0:00
Hey everyone, Dr. Liz, here, I just wanted to give an update episode. I do these from time to time for people who listen to the podcast over years, who I occasionally hear from and so they often want to know, like, what’s going on in my life, what’s going to come up in the new season of the podcast too. So this is technically the first episode of the 10th season going into 10 years of podcasting. And when I started podcasting, I didn’t even know if I would make it like a year. I thought I’d make it 10 episodes, but I really didn’t know if I’d make it a whole year. It’s sort of funny, because I written a newsletter for over 20 years now, and I’ve had websites for 20 plus years, and I do blog posting, and I did YouTube videos, like one a week for over a year at one point, and then they dropped down to, like, twice a month, or something like that. So I know I can do long term marketing, but still, when I started podcasting, I thought, okay, maybe I’ll make it a year. Maybe I’ll make it 10 episodes. Let’s see where this goes. And here we are going into 10 years, and this will be number 332

1:21
in terms of episodes, that’s a lot of episodes. It’s a lot of interviews. It’s a lot of sharing, trying to help people with different concepts that I learn along the way. A lot of different changes that have happened in my life as well during those nine years that I started the podcast. There are, there are a couple of big ones. I had a child graduate high school, leave for college. I had another child graduate high school, my second one leave for college and come home early from college, so she’s still living with me now. Probably the biggest change is that I got remarried. That’s a huge, huge change in someone’s life, and that was 2018 and then another huge change is that I moved cities. So some people move a lot. They don’t consider it a big change. They move every couple of years. But for me, it was a huge change. I owned that house for 10 years. I had been in South Florida for 30 years, and to move out of South Florida into North Florida, Jacksonville, Florida was a huge, huge change, and to sell my home, I really loved that home.

2:35
I was thinking the other day, will I ever have my dream home? Because right now, I’m in a rental, and I’m looking to probably buy in the area in Jacksonville, and just looking at houses, and, you know, none of them really look like my dream home. And then I thought, Oh my God, I’ve already had my dream home like I found it. It was in South Florida. Now there were some problems with that home along the way. There was a really big repair that had to be made multiple times. There were problems with that home, but it was definitely my dream home on many levels. In fact, when I went to go look at that home for the very first time, I fell asleep outside of it, like in my car, took a little mini nap. And I don’t know if I’ve talked about this on the podcast, that I am like a power Napper. I can do 12 minutes, set my timer for 12 minutes, take a 12 minute nap and be ready to go for the rest of the day often. Okay, that’s like hits in the afternoon. My 12 minute naps sometimes they’re a little bit longer. If I have a little more time, sometimes they’re not, I’ll set a timer for 20 minutes and wake up on the.at like 11 minutes 30 seconds. Okay, they’re very brief. They’re very restorative. But I had fallen asleep outside of this home and had a dream that this was it. I had probably looked at like 100 homes by that point, like a lot of homes. I had put a deposit down on a rental a couple streets away, thinking I’m I’m not going to find a home to buy. I’m going to have to rent another year. But I fell asleep. I had this dream, this was it. I walked in and looked around, and within five minutes I said, This is it. This is the home. And then everything worked out. And believe me, I had massive student loans. I was self employed. My mortgage officer at the time said all the stars aligned for you, Elizabeth, like my student loans at the time had to be in deferment, which they went into deferment for like, a brief period right around then, or else I would not have qualified for the loan, like all these different things. But it all lined up so the other day, just dreaming a little. Thinking, Am I ever gonna find my my dream home? And it hit me, Oh, you already have sweet pea. You already had it.

5:07
Like, okay. Will I find another home in Jacksonville that I will like? Hopefully, now I’m looking for my dream kitchen. Okay, I will say my dream home in South Florida did not have a dream kitchen. So now the focus is more on a dream kitchen. We always got to have some problem to focus on, right? But that’s a major, major thing that’s happened in the nine years previous that I’ve run the podcast, I’ve sold my home and moved to a new city, and it’s been rough. This year has been really, really tough emotionally. It is different talking to your friends on the phone versus seeing them in person. It is different running a practice online versus seeing people in person. I had a hybrid practice before where I see people all over the world, really, but I also had people in person that I saw in South Florida in my office, and I really like that model a whole lot. Versus only seeing people online, there is something about in person that happens. And my best friend said to me the other day, she’s like, Yeah, we didn’t bond with our mothers over zoom. That was hilarious. It’s like, that’s so true. We didn’t bond with our mothers over zoom. We bonded with them in person, hopefully, if you bonded with your mother.

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So there is something about that that for me is very satisfying. Still love my online clients, not saying that like 99% of my clients wanted to stay with me online versus finding someone in person in South Florida, and some of them, I still see there’s a good percent of my practice that we consider long term clients in the field where they are coming in for more depth work. They are really looking at things from different angles on an ongoing basis. That’s not the like four to eight sessions that someone’s coming in to conquer a phobia, let’s say, or two to three months to do deeper core healing hypnosis where they feel like they’re like so wiping out some beliefs, changing some beliefs that haven’t really been serving them in their life, these are more longer term clients who want to process what’s going on in their life on a weekly or semi weekly basis. Let’s say so I love them so much like you really get to know someone in a different way when you do that type of work as a therapist and them you so sometimes they’ll So sometimes those clients will take a break and then come back a year or two later, because I already know their history, because they don’t have to repeat that to somebody new, which the older you get, that gets pretty tedious. Sometimes like, okay, yes, this is my history. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, being a therapist. When I started seeing a new therapist this year, I tried to give her, like, Okay, here’s my history. This is all the work I’ve done. This stuff feels resolved, and now let’s move forward with the stuff I want to work on this year. So it can be hard, though, when you try to see someone new and give them all of that often, we don’t need that history when we’re doing very specific hypnosis for something, sometimes it’s relevant, though, that’s what that first longer session is often about a session or two. Sometimes like, what is the history here? What do you feel is healed? And what do you feel like you want to change that still needs work? And, geez, we we keep changing our whole lives. I have a mentor who’s 85 this year, and she said, I moved into a new apartment, and I decided to be someone different. I was, like, really at 85 okay, right? Like, that’s fantastic. She said she changes her whole life. She figures things out her whole life. She she does different type of work depending on the decade of her life. So that’s very hopeful to me. We all keep changing. Sometimes it feels harder in some years than others. I’ve been listening to a lot of the Buddhist teachers this year, Pema Chodron, Eckhart, Tolle, he’s not technically a Buddhist teacher. But both of them talk about suffering as a way to change. We don’t change when we’re not suffering when we’re just going along in our life feeling happy, you know, bopping about it doesn’t make us change. It doesn’t lend itself to transformation, unless we’re really conscious about that process. I think there are some people who are more conscious about it than others, but generally, it’s suffering that makes us change, that spurs i. That spurs that self inquiry that’s like, oh my god, I’m in pain here. I’m suffering. What can I do to get out of suffering, to feel better, to change myself so that I can feel better? And I would certainly say that that came about for me this year. Now I knew it would be hard to move. I had made a plan for my chimp. If you’ve listened to a path through the jungle series that I did on the podcast, I did five or six episodes on it, incredible book by Dr Steve Peters, and at the top of my list for moving was make a plan for the chimp. Your chimps gonna freak out, Elizabeth, like, freak out,

10:45
and what is your plan for your chimp? And so I had that all put together good little plan for my Chimp, but I cannot predict everything. And so the chimp, did you know, have quite, let’s say a fruit Fest this year, like swinging from trees, throwing rotten mangoes around, shaking the leaves till they fall, all kinds of stuff that Tim did this year, and I had some things in place already, like meditation and art and exercise, all these Things that soothe me. Everybody has their own list, but I had my whole list even then I really struggled emotionally and work was actually on that list,

11:33
and is very soothing for me. I know sometimes people think that therapists have a really hard job, and how do you listen to all those problems. It is incredibly soothing to me to listen to my clients, because it’s like the singular focus that goes on. It sometimes does become a flow state, depending on what’s happening in the session, where everything else falls away, like the client is the focus, the person right in front of me in my problem solving brain gets to work, which I love? I love solving problems. Okay, so it’s not just being present for an emotional process and feeling that connection. It’s that problem solving process too. I was thinking about starting a business called the problem solver because it’s like, Oh, I love to break it down. I love that whiteboard, whether it’s in person or virtual. The whiteboard of like, All right, let’s break this down. Let’s see what’s happening. Where is it starting? Where did it start? I’ll give you an example of this. So my husband and I are seeing a couples therapist, and she had asked about a fight that we had had, and we sort of jumped in reporting on the fight, like in the middle of the fight when I thought about it later. Because when I thought about it later, I thought, oh, that fight started the week before. Okay, when he said something, and then it continued two days later. So let’s say it started on a Monday. That fight started on a Monday when he said something, and then two days later, we go to breakfast. He says something else that I get upset about. And then, so that’s a Wednesday, and then the Saturday, we go to breakfast. We don’t usually go to breakfast on Wednesday mornings. He just happened to have the day off, and my clients didn’t start till later, so we went to breakfast. Usually we do go to breakfast on Saturday mornings. And then Saturday morning, before we went to breakfast, I made some snarky comments, and then during breakfast, I got very upset. I said, I’m going to calm myself down. Can I have the keys to the car? I’m going to just go sit in the car. And he said, Sure. And I said, I like to be a better partner for you. So let me go do that. I go sit in the car, and then when he finishes his breakfast, he comes out and we get into it. That is where we started reporting to the therapist about the fight. But when I thought about it later, it’s like, oh, it’s way back. It’s a week before, really, where it started. And that’s what I mean by problem solving. Often people are just seeing that present moment, the like height of what’s happening. Here’s another example. I was working with someone around nail biting, and so he said, Well, yeah, it’s often, you know, when I watch TV, yeah, you get bored or or something, and it just starts. But when we really looked at it, it’s like, Oh, what is the feeling that’s going on? What is the trigger? It’s not just TV. It’s like this little feeling in your nails that something’s imperfect and needs to be smoothed. I’m, I’m a nail biter myself. I should say x nail biter. I don’t really do it that much anymore. For many, many years, I did, and I said, All right, if we trace that back to that, I. That imperfection, let’s say, then, what are you doing to take care of the nails? What kind of prevention are you doing? Are you filing them? Are you doing nail oil like are you, if you’re a woman, are you painting them? Some men paint their nails too, but often for me, it was having my nails done kept me from biting them for many, many years, until I didn’t really need them painted anymore, and I could just not bite them, period. I’ll grab a nail file instead. So that’s what I mean by problem solving. Is like, oh, let’s trace this back. Maybe the height of the action is starting when you sit down and watch TV, but there’s all kinds of background here that goes on leading up to that. So that’s what I mean by that. I really love doing that, and that is part of the process when I work with people. So sometimes they think they’re just going to come in and say, Okay, I need a hypnosis for nail biting. Can you do one for me without really having to talk about all the different things that lead up to it? So we do that, and then we put that into the hypnosis, which is a really fun process for me, one of those suggestions becomes taking good care of your nails. Now this person worked with me for weight loss very successfully, and so he already knew my process at that point. But sometimes, when someone’s just coming in for that first session, they don’t always know that, but that becomes a flow state for me. That was actually part of my gym plan to get back to the point of all, right, what’s going to help me feel better? Because I know some of this move is going to feel shitty. It’s not going to feel like, oh my god, I escaped South Florida, and now I’m super happy. Like, never goes that way. Okay, never. Plus. I was dealing also with my daughter, who had some significant health problems my younger daughter that were not figured out when we moved here. But that has been another big change too, is she finally got a diagnosis of central sensitization syndrome from the Mayo Clinic, which happens to be in Jacksonville. I actually believe that that’s the reason I ended up in Jacksonville is so that she could get the help that she needed, and also so that she could go to college. Here she’s living at home and going to University of North Florida. I don’t really think it was because of me. It wasn’t my first choice as city. There was all kinds of circumstances that led to being here, but it’s not like a beautiful city, charming city. Nothing charming about Jacksonville. Okay, you can find some charming parts of it, the beach, the pines, I’m enjoying the cooler weather, the coffee shops here. They have lots of independent coffee shops, which is pretty cool. So you can find some good things about Jacksonville, but I still wouldn’t call it germing. And originally, I really wanted a city with some charm to it, but not my fate. So that’s more of an update about me. I’m going to be here. I’m living in Jacksonville probably the next five years, if not longer.

18:20
What’s coming up for you on the podcast?

18:25
Well, I realized we only did one free hypnosis last year, and it wasn’t even really a full hypnosis. It was helpful auto pilots, which are not hypnosis. So usually I do two or three free hypnosis on the podcast a year. So by now, I have like 15 or 20 of them that you could go back and access. If you search free on my website, they’ll pop up. Dr lizhypnosis.com or if you want to search in your podcast player on my podcast, they should pop up, but who knows, sometimes they get glitchy. But I do want to do three this year. I definitely want to do one for, like, beautiful or positive dreams. That one sounds awesome to me.

19:09
Maybe I’ll do one about confidence,

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that one may be free, or I may put it in my my paid collection that you can pay for and download. Those are like studio recorded. They’re not recorded at home, so that’s why I charge for them. I have to pay for that studio time and the editing and that type of thing. Maybe I’ll do one for work stress. You tell me, though, please send me your ideas. What would you like to hear for free hypnosis? What kind of problem would you like solved with hypnosis. Email me, Dr Liz, D, R, L, I, Z, at Dr Liz hypnosis.com

19:50
and let me know.

19:53
There’s also a new intro and outro, if you’ve noticed. So my, my. 19 year old and I were listening in the car the other day to one of my episodes, and we both started laughing, because I sounded like I was like 15 years old, like my voice from a couple of years ago sounds younger than it does now, because our voices age with us, and so I recorded a new intro and outro. There’s also buy me a cup of coffee so you can you can donate to the podcast if you want. I have never gotten a sponsor various reasons. One, they’re hard to get to tell you the truth. And two, it’s like, it’s okay. This really is an act of service for me. And I like educating people. I like learning. I get to read free books. So people send me books to read, and then I decide whether I want to interview them on the podcast. That’s awesome. All of those are great benefits that outweigh stopping the podcast just because I don’t have a sponsor. But buy me a cup of coffee is new, and that’s a way, if you want to contribute, you can to keep the podcast going. There’s going to be interviews coming up this year. Already have some banked, let’s say that need to air. And of course, I’ll do episodes on different topics, like books that I’m reading, and just sharing that information with you in a different way, like I mentioned before, I’m listening to the Buddhist Pima Chadron getting unstuck. That’s a wonderful book. It’s really about breaking habitual patterns, which, when you’re in couples therapy, you get to face your own habitual patterns,

21:41
not a fun process.

21:46
So perhaps I’ll talk about that one, because it’s so good I find myself just taking notes the whole time. It’s like, Oh, I wish I had a transcript of this audio book. I’m sure they offered that somewhere. But there’s also a good process that goes on when you take notes for me, at least that, oh, I’m encoding it. It helps me encode it helps me remember it when I take notes on something. So that’s useful too. But perhaps I’ll talk about that, the publishing schedule will probably stay about the same I usually do every other week and for a couple of months, and then I take three or four weeks off, I probably will keep that, just to keep the content fresh and coming and and I’m hoping to hit a million downloads this year. So when I first started podcasting, the growth was spectacular, like off the scale, because it was the early days, so nine years ago, and so lots and lots of people were listening as the years go by, though the downloads per month has dropped, and other podcasts I’ve talked to who started their podcast around the same time I did, we all noticed the same thing. As it got more popular. There’s more podcasts to listen to. So people go and listen to other people, and then they come back to yours. I do that too. I’ll listen to one podcast for months and then completely forget about it, and then go back to it later, like six months later, a year later, something like that. That’s just human nature. But I’m hovering right around 850,000 downloads for the lifetime of the podcast, and I’m hoping like, hey, maybe I’ll hit a million this year. Maybe then I’ll stop podcasting. Once I hit a million downloads, who knows? Maybe that’ll inspire me to keep going. I don’t know. The newsletter will keep going this year as well. If you’re not subscribed to that, you can do that over at my website. Dr, Elizabeth Gnosis, calm and I often I like to give really helpful content on the newsletter, not just list my podcast episodes, some newsletters. I get do that. It’s like, oh, okay, here’s what to listen to. I like to put some helpful tips right in the newsletter,

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the newsletter, or keep going.

24:07
And then I’m always open to new ideas. I may run another survey this year. I haven’t done one in a couple of years. I like to know who’s listening like What’s the age range that most people are that are listening to my podcast? I know it’s aged with time, like as I get older, my age range gets older as well. But what do you want to listen to? Who is that? What do you find helpful? I really love surveys like that data so that I can orient the podcast towards it. So that’s all coming up for you. So right here, I’m going to thank you again for being listeners. If you’ve listened this long to the updates, I really appreciate you over time. I love getting emails from you. Some of you become clients. I absolutely love when that happens as well. I. So I appreciate every single download, every single Listen, everyone who contacts me free consultation, whether they become a client or not. And I really hope that you are healthy and safe peace you.

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